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Daily Life of an Ambitious Society
Woman 1902 The
society woman of today is the "new
woman" in the true sense of that
term. She spends her waking hours
abroad in the land, going to and
fro, driving or riding over the
earth. The "claims" upon her time,
invited or succumbed to by
herself, are varied and manifold.
Entertaining and seeking
entertainment are to her all
absorbing. She lives in a chronic
state of pressure for time,
especially alluded to when things
not particularly interesting and
pleasurable are presented for her
notice or consideration. They select for their children
the best possible nurses, personal
maids, governesses, and tutors.
This is important, as the children
of this class of people are as a
rule more intimately and
constantly associated with
attendants and instructors than
with their parents. By
employing a trained nurse who is
held responsible in that
department these over-anxious
mammas assure themselves, wherever
they may wander upon the globe,
that there is a competent person
constantly on hand to attend to
all childish ailments and
threatened attacks of illness,"
well cared for," in charge of
others. The ocean cable answers
every purpose as a cord of
connection for keeping the dotting
parents in touch with their
offspring. Burdens of motherhood
and housekeeping cares are alike
shifted to other shoulders. Even when obliged to
change her own personal maid, the
fashionable woman leaves the work
of finding a suitable incumbent to
some one else. After the irksome
preliminaries have been attended
to she will see one or two
applicants, and, so to speak, hold
forth the symbolic scepter to the
chosen one. A fashionable New
York hostess cannot escape
considerable hard, if it be not
deep-thinking in order to become,
or to remain, a social success.
During the gay season she gives
each week several entertainments
that involve planning for herself
and circumventing others to assure
brilliancy to each function. To
secure a distinguished guest, the
idol or lion of the hour, who will
attract others and impart éclat to
her dinners, demands the exercise
of all her wits and alertness. She
is aware that many besides herself
are bent upon the same object.
Desirable guests are deluged with
invitations, and will select those
most tempting for acceptance.
Superstition occasionally invades
the peace of a hostess and
threatens her banquet. The fateful
number "thirteen" at all risks
must be avoided. Late in the day,
through unexpected regrets she may
find that unlucky number menacing
the harmony of the dinner. So
direful a prospect must be averted
by hook or by crook. At the
eleventh hour she cudgels her
brain to think of some
good-natured acquaintance who can
be persuaded to speed to the
rescue, fill a seat, and break the
spell. Failing to secure that one,
some fair recluse, a daughter not
yet "out" will be called to "sit
down" with the guests and remain
until the malefic influence evoked
by thirteen people around one
table may be stripped of its
power. The
woman who has achieved leadership
in fashion's domain, whose
invitations are eagerly sought for
or accepted who can secure
celebrities before all others for
her own affairs, who manages to
bring together at her dinners
congenial people, will be
accounted a success, a social
autocrat, just so long as no
cleverer rival steps in to
dethrone her or to gradually
undermine her position. As her
scepter may at any time be wrested
from her, there is as little
placidity for her as there is for
the Wall Street magnate who rules
in the world of finance.
Disquieting possibilities assail
the peace of both.
The daily mail of a woman of
fashion is a formidable medley,
not conducive to serenity.
Invitations innumerable to
luncheons, dinners, balls,
musicales, receptions, &c., cost
her considerable difficult
planning and diplomacy. She
receives requests for
subscriptions to every variety of
eleemosynary project, tickets for
endless affairs to help along
halting charities or to introduce
protégés to public notice;
circulars, advertising every
imaginable business seldom looked
at: and, of course, begging
letters of all descriptions
pouring in a steady stream. Among
her mail are the poor relation's
reminders. None is so rich as not
to have impecunious connections
whose appeals for help are
sometimes made in vain. Not every
society woman, however, keeps and
is governed by an engagement
calendar. Some are too indolent or
careless to do so. Failure in this
particular results in the
hopelessly delinquent being
consigned to an outer circle of
balls and big promiscuous
entertainments. Invitations to
join the select few at exclusive
functions become scarce in their
experience. It is needless to state
that this negligent person is not
in bondage to a calendar of
engagements. She goes and comes at
her own sweet will, while exciting
others to profanity now and then.
She is not a leader nor seeking to
lead. With three grand houses,
exquisite clothes, and every
material accessory for the
attainment of social dominion she
is not, never has been, and never
will be a leader.
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