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Weddings After Easter
We may expect a great deal of color in the coming
bridal trousseau, beginning at the altar. The
bridesmaids have thus lost one chance of
distinguishing themselves by a different and a
colored dress. But although some eccentric brides
may choose to be married in pink, we cannot but
believe, from the beautiful dresses which we have
seen, that the greater number will continue to be
wedded in white; therefore dressmakers need not turn
pale.
And all our brides may rejoice that they are not
French brides. It is very troublesome to be married
in France, especially if one of the high contracting
parties be a foreigner. A certificate of baptism is
required, together with that of the marriage of the
father and mother, and a written consent of the
grandfather and grandmother, if either is alive and
the parents dead. The names of the parties are then
put up on the door of the mairie, or mayor's office,
for eleven days. In England there are four ways of
getting married. The first is by special license,
which enables two people to be married at any time
and at any place; but this is very expensive,
costing fifty pounds, and is only obtainable through
an archbishop. Then there is the ordinary license,
which can be procured either at Doctors' Commons or
through a clergyman, who must also be a surrogate,
and resident in the diocese where the marriage is to
take place; both parties must swear that they are of
age, or, if minors, that they have the consent of
their parents. But to be married by banns is
considered the most orthodox as well as the most
economical way of proceeding. The banns must be
published in the church of the parish in which the
lady lives for three consecutive Sundays prior to
the marriage, also the same law holds good for the
gentleman, and the parties must have resided fifteen
days in the parish. Or the knot may be tied at a
licensed chapel, or at the office of a registrar,
notice being given three weeks previously.
We merely quote these safeguards against imprudent
marriages to show our brides how free they are. And
perhaps, as we sometimes
find, they are too free; there is danger that there
may be too much ease in tying the knot that so many
wish untied later, judging from the frequency of
divorce.
However, we will not throw a damper on that occasion
which for whirl and bustle and gayety and excitement
is not equaled by any
other day in a person's life. The city wedding in
New York is marked first by the arrival of the
caterer, who comes to spread the wedding breakfast;
and later on by the florist, who appears to decorate
the rooms, to hang the floral bell, or to spread the
floral umbrella, or to build a grotto of flowers in
the bow-window where the happy couple shall stand.
Some of the latest freaks in floral fashion cause a
bower of tall-growing ferns to be constructed, the
ferns meeting over the bridal pair. This is, of
course, supposing that the wedding takes place at
home. Then another construction is a house entirely
of roses, large enough to hold the bride and
bridegroom. This is first built of bamboo or
light wood, then covered thick with roses, and is
very beautiful and almost too fragrant. If some one
had not suggested "bathing-house," as he looked at
this floral door to matrimony, it would have been
perfect. It also looks a little like a confessional.
Perhaps a freer sweep is better for both bride and
groom. There should not be a close atmosphere, or
too many over fragrant flowers; for at a home
wedding, however well the arrangements have been
anticipated, there is always a little time spent in
waiting for the bride, a few presents arrive late,
and there is always a slight confusion, so that the
mamma is apt to be nervous and flushed, and the
bride agitated.
A church wedding involves a great deal more trouble
with carriages for the bridesmaids and for the
family, and for the bride and her father, who must
go together to the church.
Fortunately there is no stern law, if every one is
late at church, for the hour appointed, as in
England. There the law would read, "The rite of
marriage is to be performed between the hours of 8
A.M. and noon, upon pain of suspension and felony
with fourteen years' transportation." Such is the
stern order to the officiating priests.
The reason for this curious custom and the terrible
penalty awaiting its infringement is traceable, it
is said, to the wrongs committed on innocent parties
by the "hedge" parsons. Also, alas! because our
English ancestors were apt to be drunk after midday,
and unable to take an oath.
Here the guests arrive first at the church. The
groom emerges from the vestry, supported by his best
man, and then the organ strikes
up the Wedding March.
Two little girls, beautifully dressed in Kate
Greenaway hats and white gowns, and with immense
sashes, carrying bouquets, come in first; then the
bridesmaids, who form an avenue. Then the bride and
her father walk up to the altar, where the groom
claims her, and her father steps back. The bride
stands on the left hand of the bridegroom; her first
bridesmaid advances nearly behind her, ready to
receive the glove and bouquet. After the ceremony is
over, the bride and groom walk down the aisle first,
and the children follow; after them the bridesmaids,
then the ushers, then the father and mother, and so
on. Sometimes the ushers go first, to be ready to
cloak the bride, open the doors, keep back the
people, and generally preserve order.
The signing of the register in the vestry is not an
American custom, but it is now the fashion to have a
highly illuminated parchment certificate signed by
the newly married pair, with two or three witnesses,
the bridesmaids, the best man, the father and
mother, and so on, generally being the attesting
parties.
If a sit-down wedding breakfast has been arranged,
it occurs about half an hour after the parties
return from church. An attempt is
being made to return to the manners of the past, and
for the bridegroom ( la Sir Charles Grandison) to
wait on the guests with a napkin on his arm. This
often makes much amusement, and breaks in on the
formality. Of course his waiting is very much of a
sinecure and a joke.
The table for a wedding breakfast of this sort
should be of a horseshoe shape. But for a city
wedding, where many guests are to be invited in a
circle which is forever widening, this sort of an
exclusive breakfast is almost impossible, and a
large table is generally spread, where the guests go
in uninvited, and are helped by the waiters.
Eight bridesmaids is a fashionable number; and the
bride has, of course, the privilege of choosing the
dresses. The prettiest toilettes we have seen were
of heliotrope _gaze_ over satin; and again clover
red, lighted up with white lace. The bonnets were of
white chip, with feathers of red, for this last
dress; broad hats of yellow satin, with yellow
plumes, will surmount the heliotrope bridesmaids.
One set of bridesmaids will wear Nile-green dresses,
with pink plumes in their coiffures; another set,
probably those with the pink bride, will be in white
satin and silver.
A bride's dress has lately been ornamented with
orange blossoms and lilacs. The veil was fastened on
with orange flowers; the corsage bouquet was of
orange flowers and lilacs mixed; the lace over-dress
was caught up with lilac sprays; the hand bouquet
wholly of lilacs; The gardener's success in
producing these dwarf bushes covered with white
lilacs has given us the beautiful flower in great
perfection. Cowslips are to be used as corsage and
hand bouquets for bridesmaids' dresses, the dresses
being of pale blue surah, with yellow satin
Gainsborough hats, and yellow plumes. White gloves
and shoes are proper for brides. The white undressed
kid or Swedish glove will be the favorite; and high
princess dresses with long sleeves are still
pronounced the best style.
As for wedding presents, great favor is shown to
jewelry and articles somewhat out of the common.
Vases of costly workmanship,
brass wine-coolers, enameled glass frames, small
mirrors set in silver, belt clasps, pins of every
sort of conceit for the hair, choice old Louis
Treize silver boxes of curious design, and watches,
even old miniatures, are all of the order of things
most desired. So many of our spring brides are going
immediately to Europe that it seems absurd to load
them down with costly dinner sets, or the usual
lamps and pepper-casters. These may come later. How
much prettier to give the bride something she can
wear!
Wedding presents, if shown, will be in the
second-story front room, spread on tables and
surrounded by flowers. Some brides will give an
afternoon tea the day before to show the presents to
a few intimate friends. Each present will bear the
name of the giver on his or her card.
One bride intends to make a most original
innovation. Instead of going immediately out of
town, she will remain at home and attend
the Bachelors' Ball, in the evening, leaving for
Philadelphia at three in the morning. At several of
the church weddings the guests
are only bidden there; there will be no reception.
Widows who are to be married again should be
reminded that they can neither have wedding favors
nor wear a veil or orange blossoms. A widow bride
should wear a bonnet, she should have no
bridesmaids, and a peach-blossom silk or velvet is a
very pretty dress. At a certain up-town wedding all
the gentlemen will wear a wedding favor excepting
the groom. He always wears only a flower.
Wedding favors should be made of white ribbon and
silver leaves. Large bouquets of white flowers
should ornament the ears of the
horses and the coats of the coachmen and footmen.
It is a matter of taste whether the bride wears her
gloves to the altar or whether she goes up with
uncovered hands. "High-Church"
brides prefer the latter custom, The bride carries a
prayer-book, if she prefers, instead of a bouquet.
The Holy Communion is
administered to the married pair if they desire it.
One correspondent inquires, "Who should be asked to
a wedding?" We should say all your visiting list, or
none. There is an unusual
feeling about being left out at a wedding, and no
explanation that it is "a small and not general
invitation" seems to satisfy those
who are thus passed over. It is much better to
offend no one on so important an occasion.
Wedding cards and wedding stationery have not
altered at all. The simple styles are the best. The
bridal linen should be marked with
the maiden name of the bride.
If brides could only find out some way to let their
friends know where they are to be found after
marriage it, would be a great
convenience.
The newest style of engagement ring is a diamond and
a ruby, or a diamond and a sapphire, set at right
angles or diagonally. Bangles
with the bridal monogram set in jewels are very
pretty, and a desirable ornament for the
bridesmaids' gifts, serving as a memento and a
particularly neat ornament. They seem to have
entirely superseded the locket. The bride's name cut
in silver or gold serves for a lace pin, and is
quite effective.
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