| |
Ward McAllister was a native of Savannah, Ga.,
where he was born about sixty years ago. His
grandfather, Matthew McAllister, was Chief Justice
of the State, and his father, Matthew Hall
McAllister, was a justice of the Circuit Court of
the United States in California.
The family was distinguished for its legal ability.
A brother of Ward McAllister stood at the head of
the San Francisco bar for many years. On his
mother's side, Ward McAllister was connected with
some of the most distinguished families of the East.
His maternal grandmother, Mrs. B.C. Cutler, was a
daughter of Hester Marion, sister of Gen. Francis
Marion, the "Swamp Fox" of the Revolution.
When Ward McAllister was in a reminiscent mood, he
liked to tell of the admiration that George
Washington used to have for his handsome
grandmother. Through the Cutlers, Mr. McAllister was
able to claim relationship with ex-Mayor Prince, the
Appletons, and many other distinguished families of
Boston. He was cousin-german to the late "Sam" Ward,
to Julia Ward Howe, and to Mrs. Luther Terry, mother
of Marion Crawford. He was also connected by
marriage with the Astors, the Chanlers, and other
well-known families in this city.
Mrs. McAllister, mother of Ward McAllister, was a
remarkably beautiful woman, full of energy,
vitality, and social talent. She showed plain traces
of her French descent, the Marions being Huguenots,
driven to this country by religious persecution. She
was thought to bear a striking likeness to the
portraits of Charlotte Corday, to whose family she
was related.
Ward McAllister was said to resemble her very
strongly, not only in appearance, but in peculiar
personal characteristics.
Ward McAllister was a genial, charming man to people
who knew him. His manner was invariably modest and
unassuming. His dress was extremely modest and even
careless at times. Despite a funny habit of
constantly saying, "Don't you know? Don't you see?
Don't you understand?" which reporters who
interviewed him constantly made fun of, Ward
McAllister was an interesting and intelligent
talker. He was never afraid to say candidly exactly
what he thought. Latterly he had acquired the habit
of writing what he thought, and his social set had
punished him somewhat severely for it.
Ward McAllister's talents as a gourmet were
developed at an early age. When he was a lad it was
customary in the South to go to market at an early
hour, so as to avoid the heat of the day. Ward used
to get up earlier than his brothers and do the
buying for the family, so as to get his parents the
best that the market afforded. All his life he made
a study of gastronomy. When he went to Europe he was
not satisfied with partaking of banquets in the
company of distinguished people. He wanted to find
out how the best culinary effects were produced. he
made the acquaintance of the costly cooks at
Buckingham Palace, at Marlborough House, and in some
of the best public restaurants in London and Paris.
He cultivated the society of wine merchants and
prodded into the secrets of some of the famous
cellars of Europe. Much of the material he gathered
then was afterward worked into his remarkable and
interesting book, "Society As I have Found It,"
which he published in 1890.
When Ward McAllister was about twenty years old he
came North to study at Yale. A maiden aunt left him
some money, and after leaving college he returned to
Savannah, where he was admitted to the bar. In 1852
he went to California. he saw some pretty wild life
in the far West, of which he wrote very
interestingly in his book. He returned to this city
and married Miss Sarah Gibbons, whose father held a
steamboat grant from Robert Fulton, and who derived
a very good income from wharf property here which
her father had acquired. For some years after his
marriage Mr. McAllister lived altogether in Newport,
which was largely settled by Southerners, but
eventually, as he rose in social prominence, he
established a home in this city, also.
It was not until Mr. McAllister arbitrarily
condensed the swell society set of New York into
"the 400" that he achieved what might be called a
national reputation. He was then at the head of the
Patriarchs, an organization of fifty men, who
contributed most of the funds for the great society
entertainments of every season. Ward McAllister made
it a rule never to dine at his club. It was an axiom
of his that there was no society without ladies. He
had no business that came in contact with his
self-imposed social duties, and those he never
shirked. His habits were very regular. It was his
custom to rise about 8 o'clock, take a light
breakfast and devote from 9:30 to 11:320 to
business. This usually consisted of giving his
advice to those who came to seek it about
entertainments. To people not schooled in matters of
this kind he was a public benefactor. At noon he
used to visit his butcher. This he considered one of
the important bits of business of the day. He
usually lunched at the Union Club, and devoted the
afternoon to a "constitutional" walk, which he never
neglected, rain or shine, and to making calls. Never
was man more scrupulous in fulfilling all the
obligations imposed upon him as the leader of select
society.
A few years ago Mr. McAllister was in great demand
as a dinner guest. he was full of good spirits and
news, and was constantly inventing something that
pleased his social cronies. He knew all the gossip
about everybody, and did not hesitate to tell it in
the most charming manner. it is said of him that he
never was known to say a malicious thing. He was
considered the essence of good breeding as well as
of good-fellowship.
Mrs. McAllister is an invalid. She never appeared in
society, nor did she preside at her husband's dinner
table when he entertained. Her place was usually
taken by her daughter, Louise. These "home" dinners,
as Mr. McAllister used to call them, were his pride.
He used to give about one a week, and never laid
covers for more than eight.
Naturally, when he created the famous "400," Ward
McAllister came in for a severe tongue-lashing from
the people left off his list. There was a revolt
against him at once. Some people said hard things
about him. Ladies with 1,000 or 1,500 names on their
visiting lists were angry. But his friends stuck to
him. For a Southerner, Mr. McAllister stood the
severe criticisms he received with remarkable
composure. IN fact, he seemed to enjoy it.
Another innovation that added to Mr. McAllister's
social fame was his series of picnics, which for
twenty-five years were a recognized feature of
Newport Summer life. He had a good deal to say about
them in his book. He usually gave them on his farm.
"I did not hesitate," he wrote, "to ask the very
crème de la crème of New York society. My little
farm dinners gained such a reputation that my
friends would say to me: "Now, remember, leave me
out of your ceremonious dinners as you choose; but
always include me in those given at your farm, or
I'll never forgive you.'"
Mr. McAllister wrote as follows about the reasons
for founding the Patriarchs: " The object we had in
view was to make these (the Patriarchs) balls
thoroughly representative; to embrace the old
colonial New Yorkers, our adopted citizens, and men
whose ability and integrity had won the esteem of
the community, who formed an important element in
society. We wanted the money power, but not in any
way to be controlled by it."
|
|